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Dating Practices: A Moral Negotiation in Pesantren

Jurnal Ilmiah Peuradeun · Vol. 12 No. 2 (2024) · pp. 671–694

DOI
10.26811/peuradeun.v12i2.1167
ISSN
2443-2067, 2338-8617
Published
2024-05-30
Publisher
SCAD Independent
Language
eng
License
creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/4.0

Abstract

The main aim of this article was to see the public space of Pesantren as an arena for negotiating Islamic moral ideas and modernity. The practice of dating in Islamic literature is linked to immoral action because it is contrary to Islamic teachings that prohibit relationships outside marriage. It has become an important part of Islamic moral education. Dating in Pesantren is prohibited, and it is a relationship outside marriage. However, there are still many students who develop romantic relationships with members of the opposite sex in the public spaces of Pesantren. Through ethnographic studies, researchers observed Santriwati’s dating practices and interviewed them to determine the moral basis for these actions. Based on these observations at the Pesantren Madrasah Ulumul Qur’an (MUQ) Langsa, the practice of dating was carried out by santriwati by hiding behind buildings and rooms in the Islamic boarding school. This secretive and tactical action was carried out not to confront the rules made by the ustadz but as part of a negotiation between obeying the rules and the choice to continue dating. The researcher concluded that, even though the Islamic boarding school public space is filled with moral values produced by kyai and ustadz, the students still can carry out actions outside the Islamic boarding school's ideas of morality.

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  • Institut Agama Islam Negeri Kendari
  • STKIP Ahlussunnah
  • Sultan Idris Education University
  • Cenderawasih University
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Nirmala Efri HasibuanAffiliation unknown4
Aulia AzkaAffiliation unknown4
Sumartini SumartiniAffiliation unknown4
Hartini HartiniAffiliation unknown3
Putri Wening RatriniaAffiliation unknown3
Luchiandini Ika PamaharyaniAffiliation unknown3
Jumarddin La FuaInstitut Agama Islam Negeri Kendari2
Abdul KadirInstitut Agama Islam Negeri Kendari2
Andhika Jaya PutraAffiliation unknown2
Dian AswitaAffiliation unknown2
ZULKIFLI ZULKIFLIAffiliation unknown2
Mohammad TakdirAffiliation unknown2
Eko Novi SaputraAffiliation unknown2
Muh SuryonoAffiliation unknown2
Indrawati WilujengAffiliation unknown1
Trise Nurul AinSTKIP Ahlussunnah1
‪Adhy Putri Rilianti‬STKIP Ahlussunnah1
Faiz HasyimSTKIP Ahlussunnah1
Ety Nur InahInstitut Agama Islam Negeri Kendari1
Lili Rahayu SalamInstitut Agama Islam Negeri Kendari1
Tri Astuti WulandariInstitut Agama Islam Negeri Kendari1
Rini Puspita SariInstitut Agama Islam Negeri Kendari1
Devi Dwi HariningsihInstitut Agama Islam Negeri Kendari1
Ruth MegawatiCenderawasih University1
Mesra DamayantiAffiliation unknown1
Nur AmaliahAffiliation unknown1
Jirana JiranaAffiliation unknown1
Yushinta FujayaAffiliation unknown1
Benedick Pradipta Diorent Barung BarungAffiliation unknown1
Moammar FaiziAffiliation unknown1
Haryati TandipayukAffiliation unknown1
Teuku ZulfikarAffiliation unknown1
Ismail KotoAffiliation unknown1
Apri MujiyantiAffiliation unknown1
Muhamad SuryonoAffiliation unknown1

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	<dc:rights xml:lang="en">Copyright (c) 2024 Basri Basri, Mohd. Nasir, Maskanatul Fiqiyah, Syamsul Rizal, Zainuddin Zainuddin (Author)</dc:rights>
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